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Relevan Sambutan Hari Kekasih bagi Muslim

Sempena Hari Valentine yang akan menjelang, aku nak ulas la serba sedikit mengenai ke-releven-an sambutan hari tersebut sebagai seorang muslim. Ini adalah ulasan peribadi dan memerlukan tindakan dan pertimbangan yang sewajarnyer dari pihak pembaca.

Sebelum itu, suka lah aku untuk memetik beberapa artikel untuk tatapan bersama. 2 artikel yg pertama ni adalah mengenai asal usul Hari Valentine.

Valentine’s Day Historical Fact

Historical facts

Numerous early Christian martyrs were named Valentine.[6] The Valentines honored on February 14 are Valentine of Rome (Valentinus presb. m. Romae) and Valentine of Terni (Valentinus ep. Interamnensis m. Romae).[7] Valentine of Rome[8] was a priest in Rome who was martyred about AD 269 and was buried on the Via Flaminia. The flower crowned skull[9] of St Valentine is exhibited in the Basilica of Santa Maria in Cosmedin, Rome. Other relics are found in the Basilica of Santa Prassede,[10] also in Rome, as well as at Whitefriar Street Carmelite Church in Dublin, Ireland.

Valentine of Terni[11] became bishop of Interamna (modern Terni) about AD 197 and is said to have been martyred during the persecution under Emperor Aurelian. He is also buried on the Via Flaminia, but in a different location than Valentine of Rome. His relics are at the Basilica of Saint Valentine in Terni (Basilica di San Valentino).[12]

The Catholic Encyclopedia also speaks of a third saint named Valentine who was mentioned in early martyrologies under date of February 14. He was martyred in Africa with a number of companions, but nothing more is known about him.[13]

No romantic elements are present in the original early medieval biographies of either of these martyrs. By the time a Saint Valentine became linked to romance in the 14th century, distinctions between Valentine of Rome and Valentine of Terni were utterly lost.[14]

Saint Valentine’s head was preserved in the abbey of New Minster, Winchester and venerated. But there is no evidence that Saint Valentine was a popular saint before Chaucer’s poems in 14th century, not even in the area of Winchester.[15] Saint Valentine’s celebration didn’t differ from the celebrations of many other saints, and no church was ever dedicated to him.[15]

In the 1969 revision of the Roman Catholic Calendar of Saints, the feast day of Saint Valentine on February 14 was removed from the General Roman Calendar and relegated to particular (local or even national) calendars for the following reason: “Though the memorial of Saint Valentine is ancient, it is left to particular calendars, since, apart from his name, nothing is known of Saint Valentine except that he was buried on the Via Flaminia on February 14.”[16] The feast day is still celebrated in Balzan (Malta) where relics of the saint are claimed to be found, and also throughout the world by Traditionalist Catholics who follow the older, pre-Second Vatican Council calendar. February 14 is also celebrated as St Valentine’s Day in other Christian denominations; it has, for example, the rank of ‘commemoration’ in the calendar of the Church of England and other parts of the Anglican Communion.


Numerous early Christian martyrs were named Valentine. Until 1969, the Catholic Church formally recognized eleven Valentine’s Days. The Valentines honored on February 14 are:

  • Valentine of Terni (Valentinus ep. Interamnensis m. Romae): He became bishop of Interamna (modern Terni) about AD 197 and is said to have been killed during the persecution of Emperor Aurelian. He is also buried on the Via Flaminia, but in a different location than Valentine of Rome. His relics are at the Basilica of Saint Valentine in Terni (Basilica di San Valentino).

The Catholic Encyclopedia also speaks of a third saint named Valentine who was mentioned in early martyrologies under date of 14 February. He was martyred in Africa with a number of companions, but nothing more is known about him.

Some sources say the Valentine linked to romance is Valentine of Rome, others say Valentine of Terni.Some scholars (such as the Bollandists) have concluded that the two were originally the same person. In any case, no romantic elements are present in the original Early Medieval biographies of either of these martyrs.

An overview of attested traditions relevant to the holiday is presented below, with the legends about Valentine himself discussed in the end.’s_Day

2 artikel yang berikut pula mengenai asal usul Hari Ibu.

Mother’s Day History

The history of Mother’s Day is centuries old and goes back to the times of ancient Greeks, who held festivities to honor Rhea, the mother of the gods. The early Christians celebrated the Mother’s festival on the fourth Sunday of Lent to honor Mary, the mother of Christ. Interestingly, later on a religious order stretched the holiday to include all mothers, and named it as the Mothering Sunday. The English colonists settled in America discontinued the tradition of Mothering Sunday because of lack of time. In 1872 Julia Ward Howe organized a day for mothers dedicated to peace. It is a landmark in the history of Mother’s Day.

In 1907, Anna M. Jarvis (1864-1948), a Philadelphia schoolteacher, began a movement to set up a national Mother’s Day in honor of her mother, Ann Maria Reeves Jarvis. She solicited the help of hundreds of legislators and prominent businessmen to create a special day to honor mothers. The first Mother’s Day observance was a church service honoring Anna’s mother. Anna handed out her mother’s favorite flowers, the white incarnations, on the occasion as they represent sweetness, purity, and patience. Anna’s hard work finally paid off in the year 1914, when President Woodrow Wilson proclaimed the second Sunday in May as a national holiday in honor of mothers.

Slowly and gradually the Mother’s day became very popular and gift giving activity increased. All this commercialization of the Mother’s day infuriated Anna as she believed that the day’s sentiment was being sacrificed at the expense of greed and profit.

Regardless of Jarvis’s worries, Mother’s Day has flourished in the United States. Actually, the second Sunday of May has become the most popular day of the year. Although Anna may not be with us but the Mother’s day lives on and has spread to various countries of the world. Many countries throughout the world celebrate Mother’s Day at various times during the year, but some such as Denmark, Finland, Italy, Turkey, Australia, and Belgium also celebrate Mother’s Day on the second Sunday ofMay.


Different countries celebrate Mother’s Day on various days of the year because the day has a number of different origins. One school of thought claims this day emerged from a custom of mother worship in ancient Greece, which kept a festival to Cybele, a great mother of Greek gods. This festival was held around the Vernal Equinox around Asia Minor and eventually in Rome itself from the Ides of March (15 March) to 18 March. The ancient Romans also had another holiday, Matronalia, that was dedicated to Juno, though mothers were usually given gifts on this day. In some countries the Mother’s Day began not as a celebration for individual mothers but rather for Christians.’s_Day

Tujuan utama aku utarakan perkara ni adalah untuk menimbulkan kesadaran pembaca semua untuk membezakan adat dan ibadat.

Apa yang selalu orang akan perkatakan mengenai sambutan Hari Valentine?

“Yang ko sambut tu budaya orang kafir..”

Hurrmmm… kalau budaya orang kafir, mcm mana pula sambutan hari2 yang lain. Hari Ibu? Hari Kanak2? Hari Kanser? Tu semua cetusan idea non-muslim. Tapi kenapa tidak timbul isu tentang hari2 tersebut?

” Kalau nak tunjuk kan kasih sayang bukan pada 1 hari sajer, sepatutnye setiap hari..”

Adoiii… penat la aku mcm ni… Kite juger perlu tunjukkan kasih sayang pada emak kiter setiap hari, bukan pada hari ibu sahaja.. Betul tak, amacam? Got my point?

Straight to the point je la.. sbenarnyer CARA sambutan tu yang perlu dipertikaikan.. Tiada apa apa masalah dengan sambutan Hari Valentine, tetapi cara sambutan yang perlu diteliti.. Sambutan Hari Ibu sekalipun, jika telah dihidang dengan maksiat tetap akan menjadi haram.

Masyarakat kita ni memang bab memburukkan sesuatu memang handal. Sama jugak macam kes Gong Xi Raya (Gong Xi Fatt Choi + Raya Aidilfitri) dulu, bising2 pasal Islam kater tak bole beri support pada perayaan agama lain. Kutuk kerajaan. Kutuk media.. Tapi setelah diselidik, Gong Xi Fatt Choi tu adalah perayaan bangsa, bukan agama. Jadi tiada masalah. Amacam?

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  1. A different approach and a good idea. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  2. Hehee.. thanks for spending time reading those..

  3. “Barang siapa menyerupai satu kaum maka mereka adalah dari mereka.” [Hadis Riwayat Ahmad dan Abu Daud.]

  4. tolong berfikir lebih sblum menulis yang bukan2…bnykkan membaca ye

  5. En Iman, terima kasih keran sudi meluangkan masa membaca pandangan peribadi yg saya cetuskan seperti diatas. Mengkritik suatu tulisan/pandangan/idea tanpa memberi ulasan yang sepatutnya amatlah tidak adil. Harap dapat memberi komen dengan lebih lanjut

  6. salam…. cukup bernas pandangan yang cuba d sampaikan…

  7. assalamualaikum.. saudara2 ku, saya minta tolong luangkan sedikit masa untuk baca dan faham artikel di link berikut:

    we are muslims. we have our own identity.

  8. Rai hari kekasih pd 14 feb..tetep haram…umat islam boleh raikan tanpa ditetapkn tarikh..mungkin hari ulangtahun perkahwinan sbg hari kekasih..krn suami atau isteri dihargai setiap usaha dan pengorbanan dalam mengharungi dugaan rumahtangga yg sentiasa di uji…manakala hari ibu…diraikan bila-bila masa saja bagi menghargai pengorbanan ibu yg tidak pernah putus asa membesarkan ank2…kita juga akn dpt ganjaran kerana mengembirakan ibu…Hari kanser…menyedarkan umat islam agar redha dgn ujian Allah…dan sebagainya…cuma kita tidak perlu tetapkan tarikhnya…ia boleh dirai bila perlu…diiringi dgn unsur islam yg betul…

    By: sayyidah nafisah


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